The Experience of Being Married to a Dyslexic Adult Empirical Review
Middlesex University, London, UK
- Corresponding Author:
- Neil Alexander-Passe
Middlesex University, London
E-mail: [email protected]
Received date: September 14, 2015; Accepted date: December 21, 2015; Published date: December 29, 2015
Citation:Alexander-Passe N (2015) The Experience of Being Married to a Dyslexic Adult Empirical Review. J Psychol Psychother 5:230. doi:10.4172/2161-0487.1000230
Copyright: © 2015 Alexander-Passe N. This is an open-access article distributed under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution License, which permits unrestricted use, distribution, and reproduction in any medium, provided the original author and source are credited.
Introduction: This study is interested in an alternative perspective of learning disability (developmental dyslexia), those who are in long-term relationships with them, investigating how disability can be camouflaged, and how partners cope with a sometimes unusual choice of partners.
Method: A semi-structured interview script was used with to N=4 long-term non-dyslexic partners of dyslexic (areas of investigation included: dating, marriage/long-term relationships, knowledge of dyslexia, parenthood/ children, career success and emotional health). The data was analysed using Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA), where studies of N=1+ are considered worthy of study.
Results: The study indicates that dyslexics may hide their dyslexia, will only disclose their problems/ difficulties when forced to - a choice between covering up their dyslexia and maybe losing a thriving relationship. Their dyslexic partners may have specific problems with communication: from an inability/difficulty in reading social clues, difficulty pronouncing long multi-syllabic words, coming up with bizarre things in conversation, to panicking when routines are interrupted and doing things in the wrong order in shops. Thus the dyslexic partner may be perceived as abnormal and socially inapt/handicapped. Non-dyslexic partners were surprised by how much their dyslexic partner’s relied on daily routines to survive. Partners were also frustrated by their dyslexic partner’s inability to do simple tasks e.g. writing a shopping list, taking a telephone message, or paying bills on time, so most take over all such chores. ‘Social-exchange theory’ was investigated to make sense of this phenomenon. Unrealistic career choices were found that denied their partner’s dyslexia, and their parenting style suggesting a deep rooted dislike for matter relating to school, especially teacher interactions, relating to their own negative experiences.
Conclusion: The study indicates that dyslexia is more than just a disability that affects literacy, but one that in adulthood affects long-term partners and communication in the community.