People approaching the end of life go through some physical and emotional changes. If you’re looking after someone with a terminal illness you may find it useful to understand what to expect, and what can be done to make things as peaceful and calm as possible. If you’re not ready to read the information on these pages yet you can come back to them at any time. It can be very difficult to think about your own needs when a friend or family member is nearing the end of their life. But getting help with things like meals and shopping, and asking people for support, can make it easier to cope. The suggestions below are aimed at relatives and friends of people who are being cared for in a hospice, nursing home or hospital. First of all, prepare to put your normal life on hold. You’ll probably find it impossible to do or think of anything else apart from being with your relative or friend. When you’re not with them, you may be anxious every time the telephone goes. Tell friends what’s happening. People are often amazing in situations like this and very happy to provide support and help. By helping you, friends often feel more involved and less helpless.You might want to ask someone to update family and friends with news on your behalf. You can also give people set ways and times to get in touch with you. This will help stop constant phone calls, which can add to any stress you might be feeling.